What It's Like to Be A Virgin At Uni

People may totally misinterpret your choice

However it comes up in conversation, and it almost certainly will at least occasionally, virginity can be an odd topic in the reactions it provokes.

Commonly, people will express a degree of admiration or respect for your choice, if it is a choice, but sometimes people might respond with confusion, disdain or pity, which can be less pleasant.

And speaking of pity…

People will try to help you

This can be one of the most annoying factors. To some people, the idea of not wanting sex is like not wanting a delicious meal, or not wanting to read a great book.

This is by no means a bad thing about them: sex is wonderful, and those who enjoy it should be free to do so without fear of judgement for that, but all too often it can be decided that a student who's never had sex just needs, and therefore clearly wants, the opportunity to arise and these 'helpful' friends will endeavour to make it so.

All you can really do here is try to be as clear as possible. Remember: it's your body and your first time, no one gets to tell you what to do with either.

You're NOT missing out on the uni experience

Uni and sex are closely connected in many people's minds, and for good reason. Life as a student, especially a Fresher, is a flurry of first times and for lots of people this includes sex.

This is not at all to say that by abstaining from sex you'll be having a lesser, or less complete, uni experience. You can still have just as much fun flirting, dating and doing everything else - the only difference is how your night ends and that's strictly your business and your decision.

Besides, after the thrill of freshers wears off, many students find themselves more drawn to the comfort of a tolerable night's sleep than to the quick thrill of a one-night stand.

You can still enjoy your body

Many people associate abstaining from sex with saying no to any form of sexual pleasure, but this absolutely does not have to be the case. There might be more limited forms of sexual contact you're ok with, you might be a virgin but still one of the biggest power fiends around when it comes to vibrators, it's all up to you.

All that can be said is that your decisions are yours to make, and your body is yours to do with as you see fit. If someone takes issue with this, that's their problem, not yours.

The ViBlogger is a student at the University of Leeds, where he studies Astrophysics. When he's not writing for The Sextbook, he can usually be found in a Yorkshire field reenacting the 12th century.

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