Position of the Week: Freeway

They say three’s a crowd, but that doesn’t mean you and your partner can’t indulge in a little threesome fantasy with a sex toy and some creative thinking.

How?

First, affix a dildo with a suction cup base to a wall, mirror or other flat surface. It should be placed at a height that’s easy for a partner on hands and knees to reach with their mouth.

Once the dildo is securely in place, the receiving partner gets on their hands and knees and faces the toy. The giver kneels behind the receiver, holding the receiver's hips while penetrating them from behind.

While the receiving partner is being penetrated, they can lick and suck the dildo in front of them as if they’re giving a blowjob to a third person. Think: Doggy Style with an imaginative twist.

Why?

Plenty of couples are turned on by the idea of having sex with another person, but don’t actually want to be intimate with anyone else. Using a sex toy as a stand-in for a third person is a way to explore the fantasy without crossing any lines.

Playing with a realistic dildo – one that has details like veins and a bulbous head – can enhance the fantasy by making it feel more lifelike. These types of toys are made with silicone that feels like velvety-soft skin, which further amps up the realistic vibes.

Make it even easier

While this position can be done on the floor, you can also do it on a mattress by attaching the dildo to a smooth headboard or nearby wall. If you do opt for the floor, you can place a pillow or blanket underneath either or both partners’ knees to make things a bit more comfortable.

Another creative take on the Freeway involves using a sex swing. Swings aren’t just fun, they can also make the position more accessible for people who can’t comfortably hold their weight on hands and knees.

If you’re the receiver, you’ll be in the sex swing facing away from your partner, with straps around your chest and belly to support you. Position the dildo on a nearby wall or piece of furniture in a place where you swing can easily suck it while your partner thrusts from behind.

Make it even better

If you’re not turned on by the idea of a lifelike penis, consider a non-realistic dildo that provides the same fun without the detail. Add a little bit of lubricant for an extra-smooth ride that’s more fun for both giver and receiver. Turn things up a notch with sultry lingerie worn by either partner.

Make it even kinkier

Lean into the fantasy with dirty talk about your “third.” If you’re the giving partner, talk about how hot your partner looks giving a blowjob while they’re being penetrated by you. If you’re the receiving partner, talk about how good it feels or tastes to have “him” in your mouth while your partner thrusts behind you. For an extra lifelike sensation, heat up the dildo with warm water before you use it so it’s closer to body temperature.

If the receiving partner has both a vagina and an anus and is turned on by the idea of having all their orifices filled simultaneously, consider adding another toy like a butt plug or dildo to the mix. The giving partner can also wear a butt plug or anal vibrator for extra stimulation while they’re thrusting.

Not the position for you?

We're working to make sure that everyone is represented on our website, regardless of who you love, so we'll be using a variety of gender depictions in our Position of the Week posts. This will include straight, gay, lesbian, and gender neutral couples, but all positions will have details in the description of how to make them work for your own relationship dynamic.