How to Use a Strap-On

You’ll see from our wide range of cool strap-ons that most come with a harness. A belted arrangement goes around your pelvis and holds the dildo in position as you peg away on your kinky companion.

Most strap-on harness kits have a hole or an O-ring that you can slot a dildo into. You might get one dildo with the kit, but once you experience the joys of strap-on sex, we reckon you’ll want to add more dildos to your collection.

Customers say:

"Don't forget that you can use cock sleeves and extensions to give extra length and girth to your dildos." - Gyrator53

Measuring for Dildos and Harnesses:

To choose the right dildo, measure the internal diameter of your O-ring on the harness.

To choose an O-ring or harness that will work with your dildo, measure the circumference of your dildo, just above the flared base (where it will sit in the O-ring).

Okay, if first time pegging - put the dildo in the harness before you strap your harness on. That’s the easiest way. If your harness happens to come with an interchangeable O-ring, make sure the O-ring is attached to the harness before you get toey.

Customers say:

“The harness itself was very easy to use and adjust the size to fit you snugly, and having a removable O-ring allows you to use this with a large range of toys - a very big bonus.” - Matt!

Dildo shapes and sizes:

If your dildo is long and smooth with a flat, flared base like the Lovehoney 7 Inch Curved Silicone Dildo, you can just slip it into the O-ring.

If your dildo is large, has a big kink in it, or cums with life-like dangling teabags similar to the Lifelike Lover Realistic Dildo 6 Inch, you’ll need to gently pinch the flared base and work it through the O-ring.

We reckon lube makes everything better, so if pegging for beginners, try using a little water-based lubricant to help ease the dildo through the O-ring.

Whatever you're penetrating, whether it’s a gorgeous slice of lady cake or a kinky clacker, a good lubricant is a must for top-notch sex.

If you’re deep-diving into fifth base, we’d recommend an anal lube because they’re thicker and requires less reapplication.

But remember that if your dildo is made of silicone, you shouldn’t use silicone lube - go for water-based lube instead.

Slow sex is good sex when it comes to pegging for beginners. Spend the time beforehand to 'warm up' and relax into your play.

A stage door needs some tender loving before it’s ready to welcome the dildo like a supermodel’s vagina, as Tina Fey once said at the Oscars about Leonardo Di Caprio’s dates.

Try experimenting with your fingers and smaller toys first. Anal toys can light your fire before play and anal beads are worth a shot. When you’re good and ready, let the play begin.

Customers say:

“With a bit of lube they slide in perfectly, and the different sizes mean you can slowly build up as you go along.” - Misss J

Unlike a real live wang, the dildo doesn’t feel anything. So, keep that front of mind - the partner wearing the strap-on won't be able to feel through it. That means the receiver has to chat with their bonk buddy to let them know what feels good and what doesn't.

If you're the penetrator, pay attention to your beau's words AND their reactions and body language. Let them guide the depth and speed of penetration because they are one really feeling it.

Customers say:

"It is the ultimate form of trust for a couple to engage in having sex with a strap-on." - wee_bear

Peeps are unique in their likes and dislikes, so, one couple’s fave sex position is another couple’s yawn.

So, explore them all and discover a pozzie that is comfy and sexy for both of you. Some of the most popular pegging positions are pegger-on-top, doggy style and spooning.

We reckon a safeword is a good idea. A safeword is a word or phrase that signals STOP to your partner. Safewords are vital for safety and peace of mind during sex play.

The traffic light system is well-understood and makes a handy means of signaling three responses: red for STOP, yellow for SLOW DOWN CAUTION and green for GO, GO, GO!