The Top 10 Best Dildos, According to Sexologists

Whether you love the feel of a glass dildo or want to add penetration to your anal play, there are so many options for fun when it comes to these phallic-like pleasure tools. And by many, we mean A LOT. Lovehoney has over 300 different dildos to choose from.

How in the hell does one go about selecting one then? With a little help from our friends (who also happen to be experts in sex).

We asked two of our Lovehoney ambassadors, Chantelle Otten (an award-winning psycho-sexologist) and Cam Fraser (a leading sex coach) all your burning questions on the best dildos and why they are so popular.

The moral of the story? Like any sex toy, there’s no dildo which is perfect for everyone. It’s about finding the right dildo for you, your body and your desires.

So, why choose a dildo?

Cam: “Dildos are popular because they’re reliable. They don’t require any warming up and they won’t become flaccid after an ejaculation. They also come in a multitude of shapes and sizes – which can add a variety of stimulation – and someone can find a specific dildo that is perfect for them.”

Chantelle: “Well, dildos are the OG sex toy. They have been around for a long time. You can even find some bronze dildos from 2000 years ago! Over the years there have been many uses for dildos and vibrators, but we mostly use them for fun and pleasure now.

They're popular because people of all genders and sexual orientations can use them. They are popular because of their versatility. You can have realistic looking dildos, or coloured dildos. They can be made out of different materials and used to stimulate different areas. Some vibrate, some don't. The majority of them are waterproof, and hey! You can even get double ended ones so there is fun for two.”

If you’re a toy newbie and this all sounds a bit confusing to you, that’s okay. Head to our Beginner’s Guide to Dildos for a breakdown of the different kinds you can find.

Do I need to use lube when using a dildo (A.K.A. my new best friend)?

Chantelle: “Lube is everything! Not only does it make sex feel better, but it protects your body from little microtears which may occur if there isn’t enough lubrication... ...Remember, lube will elevate every sexual experience and don’t expect ‘natural lubrication’ every time.”

Cam Fraser: “Lube is important when using most sex toys, including dildos. This is because the material the toy is made from may ‘stick’ to the skin if there isn’t sufficient lubrication produced by the body. It’s also necessary for anal penetration as the anus doesn’t self-lubricate. Using lube also helps to ease insertion and adds sensation.”

What kind orgasm will a dildo help me achieve if I have a clitoris and a G-spot?

Cam: “There is a belief that clitoral and G-spot orgasms are actually the same because the G-spot is in fact part of the clitoral complex (the internal structure of the clitoris). However, many women and people with a vulva report that there are indeed differences between clitoral and so-called G-spot orgasms. They often describe orgasms experienced via clitoral stimulation as an intense ‘peak’ while G-spot orgasms are deeper, slower, and more full-bodied, like a ‘wave’.

You can use a dildo to stimulate either area, however when it is inserted, a G-spot orgasm is probably more likely as the toy will not directly stimulate the clitoris. It is important to note though that many people with a vulva find it difficult to orgasm without external clitoral stimulation. There are also so-called cervical orgasms which can be experienced via stimulation of the cervix.”

Chantelle: “Not a huge amount of vagina owners can achieve vaginal orgasms. Approximately 20% can. This is ok, because orgasm is not an indicator of sexual satisfaction, and it’s still pleasurable (for many) to have penetrative sex without gasm.

Most people believe they have a ‘highly sensitive’ area inside the vagina, despite there being some scientific debate around whether or not the G-spot even exists. The G-spot is not actually a ‘spot.’ It’s a fleshy AREA located five to eight centimetres inside the vagina, up in the direction of the belly button.

If you or your partner insert two lubricated fingers inside your vagina and make a ‘come hither’ motion, then the fleshy material, about the size of a walnut – think a spongy walnut – will begin to swell. This spongy zone is the G-area. Massaging here stimulates the end of the clitoral nerves (which extend into the vagina), the urethra sponge, and a bunch of nerves called the paraurethral glands (meaning the glands surrounding the urethra). The largest of these nerves are a pair called the Skene’s glands.

Dildos help because they can be designed to hit the G-area perfectly and a lot of them vibrate, which adds the kind of stimulation a penis simply can’t do.”

What is the best dildo material?

Cam: “Good quality dildos come in several different materials, including silicone, glass, stainless steel and lucite (also known as acrylic). Other lesser-quality materials include jelly, rubber, and PVC or vinyl.

Different materials will pair better with different lubes. For example, you shouldn’t use silicone-based lube with silicone sex toys as the lube will degrade the toy. You also shouldn’t use an oil-based lube with porous materials like PVC. Water-based lube is great because it can be used with pretty much everything.”

Chantelle: “Look for 100 percent medical-grade silicone, metal, glass, hard plastic, acrylic or ceramic.

Try to avoid any products that have phthalates in them. These are toxic chemicals found in polyvinyl chloride (PVC), rubber, jelly and vinyl. Phthalates can wreak havoc on your hormone balance, are linked to breast cancer, and can impact reproductive health. I would also recommend you stay away from ‘crystal’ dildos. Crystal dildos are porous, meaning bacteria can get inside them and infect your cooch. Yikes!

Remember: products that are going in and on your body must be safe.”

We’re seeing more and more references to pegging in the mainstream media and we’re loving it. If you haven’t heard about the joys of this kind of play, head to our beginner's guide to pegging here and if you’re ready to find the dildo to help you discover for yourself, head here.

Use either end of this beauty to stimulate your G-spot (or your G-area as Chantelle explained to us earlier) with lots of your favourite lube, exploring the angles and motions which feel good to you. Apply continuous pressure, keep the sweet sensation going when you find it and don’t stop if it feels like you need to pee (this is normal). For more squirting tips, head to our guide on how to squirt here. Don’t hold back, sweetie.

Alternatively, use in tandem with your partner by getting into a tight-knit and intimate position like this one to really get rocking and rolling.

A word to the wise: make sure you to test the temp on the inside of your arm before using it on your more sensitive areas. If it’s too hot for your arm, it’s too hot for your lovin' oven or booty. The same goes if it’s so cold, it’s frosty. Remember what happens when your tongue touches something icy and it sticks? Yeah, let that one melt before putting it anywhere near your downstairs lips, my friend.